Extended family parenting: many styles, one child, Pires, Guerreiro, Cardoso, 2012). However, the uniqueness of this situation is that although Stella does not live with her daughter and mother, she gradually becomes involved in their lives. Although Stella is grateful to her mother for providing love and care to her daughter while she was recovering, she revealed to me that it was difficult to negotiate her role as a parent while she was returning to her daughter's life, after being partially absent for the majority. Besides his maternal grandmother, Drew's family home also contains his maternal grandfather, his biological aunt and uncle, and his paternal great-grandmother. Stella was also living in her family's home with Drew, however, at the time, Stella was still early in her recovery and was struggling to stay sober. This caused conflict between her and her family and Stella decided that she would find her own apartment. Reflecting on this period of her life, Stella explains: "I wasn't in a good state of mind, I didn't want her [Drew] to see me like that, that's why I would stay at the gap. » Stella further adds that it has only been in the last year that she has had regular contact with Drew, spending weekends with her daughter and going on mother-daughter outings. With so many family members helping to raise Drew, Stella explains that there is a lot of disjuncture between parenting styles, especially in the area of ​​discipline. For example, some family members will use shame and corporal punishment to combat addiction. In Stella's words: When you become that person, you do certain things out of necessity, [but] because I had strong morals and standards, I didn't go that far, because you know, I was raised differently… I was raised better than Although Stella believes that her strong moral values ​​allowed her addiction not to lead to acts such as theft or violence against others, they did not prevent her to take drugs. As Stella adds, "Somehow everything got screwed up...and I don't want that to happen with her [Drew]." Therefore, Stella would like to see her child raised the same way she was raised, but with the added knowledge of her life experiences, in the hopes that her child will make better choices than her. Part of this upbringing involves Drew being a member of the Greek Orthodox Church and attending "Greek School ».."