According to a 2001 Gallup poll, 89% of Americans said married men/women having an affair was morally unacceptable. However, when we hear about men having an affair, we are quick to jump to conclusions and assume their partner wasn't doing something right. Regarding a scandal involving a relationship with a New York governor a few years ago, Dr. Laura Schlessinger expressed: "...When the woman does not focus on the needs and feelings, sexual, personal, for for him to feel like a man, for him to feel like a man, for him to feel like a success, for him to feel like his hero, he is very sensitive to the charm of another woman who makes him feel what he needs. This statement has such a negative impact on women's lives; we instill in them a sense of guilt and low self-esteem. Because these are the feelings that have been instilled in us, we react in the same way to reading Ethan Frome; we ignore Ethan's flaws and blame Zeena for all their