So where is the balance? Studies show that using the authoritative parenting style is the most effective. “The authoritarian parenting style is most effective in transmitting values ​​in individualistic societies because, in these contexts, it is important for an individual to assert themselves and actively pursue their own wants and needs. » (Journal of Intercultural Psychology 203). The authoritarian parent uses a combination of love and boundaries to help their children develop independence. When children grow up with authoritative parents, they learn to properly use their own social skills such as discussions and conversations, while allowing them to listen and convey their thoughts effectively. These children also demonstrate more emotional control and maturity. In addition, these children develop greater self-esteem and have more self-confidence thanks to the stimulating and encouraging environment in which they live. The firm, but loving and authoritative parenting style produces competent and creative children because they are encouraged to follow their interests most. “The child may argue and test boundaries, but he is fundamentally satisfied with his relationship with his parents and does not rebel” (Baumrind 795). Balance is key, so when you use an authoritative parenting style, your children are less likely to disobey orders from their authority and the relationship between the parent.