Chinua Achebe reveals a variety of interesting connections between the characters in Novel Things Fall Apart. Relationships with parents, children and the inner self are approached differently, but the attitude Okonkwo gave them determined the type of result he generated from these relationships. Okonkwo looks at everything through his violent and manly point of view and is afraid to show his true feelings because he thinks he can be seen as weak and feminine. This paranoid attitude leads him to self-destruction. Okonkwo the son of the useless and unimportant father Unoka strives to become rich and successful among the Ibo, unlike his father who was simple, poor and always in debt to everyone. Okonkwo tries to forget everything his father's life meant and creates his own principles. This father's life ended in a very shameful way: “He had a bad chi… or rather until his death because he had no grave. » (18). Therefore, Okonkwo plays the role of a productive, rich, courageous and violent man (who seems to be successful on the side) and rejects everything emotional and feminine that was most of his father's life. "...he looked haggard and sad except when he was drinking or playing his flute..." (21). Okonkwo can be seen as a tragic hero, he seems so "in control" due to his violent actions , of his order and his aggression, but it is his mistake (tragic flaw) which later leads to a, again self-destruction This foreshadows his "inner" attitude and his use of fists instead of words. : “his wives… lived in perpetual fear of his fiery character, as did his little children” (13) However, some of his actions allow us to peek into the tender and restless individual beneath the despotic and neutral outer layer. ...... middle of paper ......ple, resists the new political and religious orders because he feels that they are not manly and that he himself will not be so if he converts to join them or even stand alongside them During his seven-year exile from his village, he tried to prove to everyone around him the theory of what a man should be like. When Okonkwo learns that his son Nwoye is among the Christians “where have you been? »… “Answer me”…. “Before I kill you.” (151). He wonders how could he raise such a weak and “feminine” son. The attitude Okonkwo gave to his relationships determined the type of results he generated. In all relationships, Okonkwo showed it on one side and cannot accept his true feelings towards his loved ones and the transformation of his culture, and his inability to accept something as it is and not just live according to it. your rules and principles, which leads to self-destruction.