Divorce has become a major part of our society and affects many people each year. In some divorce cases, families have been torn apart, leaving children stuck in the middle of the conflict. This is where children start to lash out at their parents and everyone around them and it's because they are hurt and out of their comfort zone. We must not forget the children who are negatively affected by divorce. However, this is not always the case. There are children of divorce who come out of it relatively peacefully. However, it is important to keep in mind that divorce is not always the solution. If there is a marriage that has only minor and easily resolved problems, then they should try to reach a compromise. Married couples facing irreconcilable marital problems should not stay together for the sake of the children, as they must consider their own well-being. Divorce may allow them to function better as a family, and staying together could put children at increased risk of psychological problems. Couples faced with the question of whether or not to divorce have many things to consider. However, they should not forget themselves when making such a life-changing decision. Couples need to think about their own well-being when considering divorce. They don't realize that the way they feel and act affects the way their children will feel and act. It also affects the way children perceive things in life. “My own belief is that the effects on children should be one of the factors to consider when making such a decision, but not the main one. The main determinants should be whether the parents feel there is enough pain in their relationship to warrant its breakup” (Gardner, 38). This... middle of paper ... leaves children less at risk of major psychological problems. In cases of high-conflict marriages, the benefits of divorce for the good of the family outweigh the benefits of staying together. Works Cited Tennant, Agnieszka. “The CT Interview.” Christianity Today, March 2006: p40-43 Kirn, Walter et al. “Should you stay together for the kids.” TIME Magazine September 25, 2000: p74Wendt, Sarah et al. "The effect of family violence on parenting arrangements after separation: the experiences and views of children and adults from separated families after 1995 and after 2006." Family Matters 2010: p49-61Wolf, Anthony E. " Why did you have to divorce? And when can I get a hamster? The Noonday Press: New York, 1998. Gardner, Richard A. The Parenting Book of Divorce. Doubleday and Company, Incorporated: Garden City, 1977.