As life is never without problems, it is full of difficulties and pain, people develop their own coping mechanisms to deal with these painful moments. Everyone has different ways of relieving pain. When people use their unique coping mechanisms to manage their emotions, then their grief can be healed. However, they will still suffer if they do not fully cope with the grief. The Secret Life of Bees by Sue Monk Kidd suggests that coping with grief requires not only finding a unique way to ease the suffering, but also the support of the community. the mechanisms become ineffective without the support of his sisters. After the suicide of her twin sister April, May becomes sensitive to the pain of others. Once she can no longer take the pain, she begins to hum “Oh! Suanna” and go to the Western Wall. The idea for his Western Wall came from his sisters August and June. It's like the idea of ​​the Jewish people going to their wall to cry. May writes “all the heavy feelings she carries” (98) on pieces of paper and posts them on the wall. “That seems to be the only thing that helps him”(98) in those years. This coping mechanism helps her ease her grief for years through the "company and support" of her sisters (136), until she discovers that her sisters are hiding the truth. Zach is put in prison. August knows that May is not able to handle this feeling of harshness, and she suggests company to go to the Western Wall, but May refuses. Meanwhile, when she refuses August's support and decides to face the pain alone, she finds herself isolated from her sisters. The epigraph "Bees depend not only on physical contact with the colony, but also need its social companionship and...... middle of paper ...... she is already part of it." Lily feels loved to be in the community. She even finds the maternal love that she had been looking for for a long time in this community. At the end of the novel, Lily says: “All these mothers. [She has] more mothers than eight street girls. These are the moons that shine upon me” (302), indicating that she understands that the motherly love of the community can give her the strength to face any struggles or pains in life. No medicine has the same function as love in healing people's suffering. the spirits. Love is the only way to help others overcome their pain. It's not enough to love yourself. We must share our love with others, for example by supporting them, because “every little thing wants to be loved” (92). We can never imagine how powerful love is, so “not only love, but persist in love” (289). Works Cited The Secret Life of Bees