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  • Essay / The Mastery of Love by Don Ruiz - 1356

    The first chapter, titled “The Wounded Spirit,” deals with people's emotional wounds. All humans are mentally ill. This disease called fear. People are afraid to be who they are. If someone says something bad to someone, they will take it personally and it will be hurtful to them. To protect these emotional wounds, people create a big “denial system” that helps us become perfect liars. Sometimes we lie to protect ourselves from pain. The Daniel System is a wall of fog that keeps us from seeing the truth and allows us to pretend that everyone else believes what we want them to believe about us. People protect themselves by wearing a social mask, because it is painful to see ourselves or let others see us. The second chapter, titled “The Loss of Innocence,” deals with people’s loss of innocence. Children can easily perceive everything very quickly. Their world is different. They are not ashamed to show their love, happiness and freedom. But everything could change. We have lost our innocence since childhood. We are forced to change and start perceiving the world differently, which contains a lot of emotional pain and poison. In this chapter, some examples show how a child's world could change. Sometimes when children express love (they want to play with their parents and start running), parents may punish them because it is not safe for them. But the child doesn't understand why she did this, and it's fair or not fair. And this opens an emotional wound in the mind, which can be infected with emotional poison. Chapter three, titled “Men Who Don’t Believe in Love,” is about men who think love doesn’t exist. The author is trying to say that people sometimes make mistakes when they get married. Couples give each other a hard time... and you tell yourself that you're not good enough, that you're not smart, that you're not beautiful. Don't think you don't deserve to be happy. Don't believe what hurts you. Finally, the third rule is don't believe anyone else. People lie all the time and you don't need to believe them. The second step to healing emotional wounds is forgiveness. You must forgive those who hurt you, even if it is unforgivable. You're not doing it for them, you're doing it for yourself, because you don't want to be hurt every time you remember what happened. The last stage I read about in this chapter was love. Love is the medicine that helps in the healing process of wounds. To love your neighbor, your parent, your friend, you must first love yourself. You can't be happy if you don't love yourself. In short, there are three simple methods that can heal emotional wounds.